Category Archives: Thoughts on Life

Writing Bravely

writingA friend recently sent me his opinion of The Myth of the Yellow Kitchen.
 He talks about  my being brave, which means a lot to me, but that’s not how I think about it. Really, I shared my story because I wanted to offer encouragement to others who face struggles. I hope that people enjoy what I’ve written and can learn from it too. To me, it was only natural to start writing about my life and I couldn’t really stop. He doesn’t feel the same way about writing, but I am touched that he was able to appreciate what I did.
This is what my friend wrote:
The best autobiography I’ve ever read is Growing Up, Russell Baker’s account of the years before he became anyone, or did anything readers had any reason to be interested in. By page 20 or so of The Myth of the Yellow Kitchen Baker’s book popped into my mind; I can’t offer a memoirist any higher praise than that. 
 
Your book is wonderful: fluid, funny, touching, and astonishingly brave. Another writer might envy you such an interesting and varied life, filled with travel, vivid family members, and domestic ups and downs. But bringing them to full life and making me care about them, which you have done brilliantly, takes a special gift. And the courage you show in revealing your doubts, fears, hesitations, and setbacks takes something else entirely.
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Thanksgiving at my Table

ThanksgivingThanksgiving is a special time to remember all the good things in our lives. Not that we shouldn’t do that all the time, but this is a time to do it together. I wrote this some time ago, but it still applies today.

Whatever you are doing in this season, I hope you are able to enjoy the blessings around you.

Thanksgiving

I feast my eyes on the children
my children
grown, beautiful
building an order to their lives.

My eldest getting married
to a wonderful young man
Another in law school,
not quite together yet about his life,
his vocation, his love,
But together in his head, his vitality
his assessment of things.

And the youngest
when did she get so lovely,
so tall, so slim
so elegant,
getting off the train
hugging her brother.

I feast my eyes on my nieces and nephews
growing up, getting taller
building an order to their lives.
Carrying the chairs, setting the table,
laughing as I torture the turkey

I feast my eyes on the richness of the harvest,
of young people
having birthdays, arguing about politics,
growing older, entering adulthood.
I feast my eyes on the miracle of it all.

This poem was reprinted from The Myth of the Yellow Kitchen, a memoir about resilience in the face of life’s challenges.

 

Life and Death — Living with Mortality

Today, I went to a memorial service for a friend.  He was eighty-five, lived a wonderful life as a doctor and had three grown and exceptional children, all of whom spoke at the service.  His wife, also a physician, spoke too, of their sixty-two years together, his humor, his caring, his interests and their marriage.meleah-s-birthday-cake-1325964-638x479_edited

Tomorrow, Sunday, I am going to the birthday party of a friend, he is seventy-five.  Continue reading Life and Death — Living with Mortality